Gary Chapman has come out with different versions of this book after the one for couples.. now they have for singles, children, men, teen and etc.
And even.. 5 languages for work -> Forgiveness and how to apologize.
I did the little test and found out that my languages of love in sequence is as below:
1. Acts of service
2. Quality time/Receiving Gifts
3. Physical Touch
4. Words of affirmation
At the same time, the difficult part is understanding our loved ones' love language and to show them the love language that they want to receive... so that they would feel loved by us.
Overall, the book gave me a more understanding of showing love, rather than receiving all the time. Loving is a choice, it's NOT a FEELING.
I've always thought that love is a feeling -> in cloud 9 and head over heels -> it's not exactly true all the time.
What's more that is pleasing to God's eyes is shoing our love to others.
God first loved us, UN-CONDITIONALLY.
That made me realised that I should not love a person only in return of the person loving me.
Even if the person remains cruel to me, that doesn't mean i should stop loving the person.
If God could love me and forgive me despite of all my sins and wrong doings, why can't I learn to love like him?
Sounds like motherly or fatherly love. The love that my mom is some-what unconditional too -> she would be willing to do things for me (acts of service), and yes... she still does the cooking, washing, cleaning, sewing (alter my pants) and etc etc........... even if i'm lazy -> she'd do it...