Sunday, February 10, 2008

A Love Language Minute: Giving Gifts - By Gary Chapman

Giving Gifts to Show Love

Gifts are visual symbols of love. Most wedding ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. The person performing the ceremony says, “These rings are outward and visible signs of an inward and spiritual bond that unites your two hearts in love that has no end.” That is not meaningless rhetoric. It is a significant truth - symbols have emotional value.

Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to others. That’s why when you give a gift to some people, they are greatly moved emotionally. It speaks more deeply than words, quality time, physical touch or acts of service.

Become a Giver
Gifts come in all sizes, colors, and shapes. Some are expensive, and others are free. To the individual whose primary love language is receiving gifts, the cost of the gift will matter little. If your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts, you can become a proficient gift giver. In fact, it is one of the easiest love languages to learn. Gifts can be purchased, found, or made.

Ideas for Giving
If your spouse’s love language is receiving gifts, here are some ideas. Try a parade of gifts: leave a box of candy in the morning, have flowers delivered in the afternoon, and give her a book in the evening. When she asks, “What is going on?” you respond, “Just trying to fill your love tank.”

Give your spouse a gift every day for one week. It need not be a special week, just any week. I promise you it will become “The Week that Was!”

Keep a “Gift Idea Notebook.” When you hear your spouse say, “I really like that,” or “I would really like to have one of those,” write it down in your notebook. This will serve as a guide when you are ready to select a gift. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he was thinking about me. He loves me.” Giving gifts is a powerful expression of love.


chinyin said...

so ur primary language= Gift?

mei yi said...

i forgot already. i think it is actions.